Never Go To Someone’s House Without One Arm Shorter Than The Other
(meaning, be sure to bring something)
A good hostess will never expect anything in return but a good guest should bring something. Bringing a gift is a nice gesture and will keep everyone’s spirits bright. While hotel etiquette is a simple endeavor (be sure to tip housekeeping and concierge), staying at someone’s home requires special consideration. I am sure your hostess has done a great deal of planning to ensure your comfort during your stay. Show your appreciation for the accommodations and bring a gift. It doesn’t have to be big or expensive. A bottle of wine is sufficient for an overnight stay, a longer stay may require something more. A considerate gesture would be to give something personal; perhaps a gift card to a local restaurant they frequent, a gift basket, or flowers for the table. A great conversation starter is to bring along a local delicacy to share, like baked goods from your hometown . A thoughtful “Thank You” gift goes a long way. Another option is to treat your host/hostess to a dinner out. Let them know in advance so they can plan accordingly.
Follow these simple considerate acts and you will always be regarded as a welcome guest.
- Do not show up unannounced
- Bring a gift for the host/hostess
- Lend a hand when necessary, you should offer to help set the table, help with meal preparation, and do the dishes. Even if you are turned down, your hostess will appreciate the gesture.
- Follow the house rules. Respect the host/hostess schedules and rules regarding pets.
- Do keep your guest room neat and clean. It’s not polite to make extra work for your hosts. Make the bed and keep your clothes in drawers.
- Leave your bedroom and bathroom in the same condition as when you had arrived.
- As soon as possible after you return home be sure to express your gratitude and send a thank-you card. This is one of those situations in life when a thank-you card is non-negotiable.